Archive for June, 2009

Episode 11: Fertility, Everything You Wanted To Know

Hosts: Judee Sunderland and Gillian Norrie

Interviewed Andrew A. Toledo, M.D. the medical Director from Reproductive Biology Associates. He has treated infertile couples in the Atlanta and all over the country for over twenty years.

Dr. Toledo’s scientific interests span all areas of reproductive medicine, with a particular focus on advanced reproductive technologies, reproductive surgery, and recurrent pregnancy loss. He has published over thirty-six peer-reviewed articles and has been honored in Atlanta Magazine as one of “Atlanta’s Top Docs”.

His RBA practice is one of the only practices to offer fertility preservation services through egg freezing to women 38 years of age and under. Northside offers comprehensive services for mothers of RBA

We discuss and ask the questions you want to know from Dr. Toledo - questions like; When you and your husband are trying to get pregnant and nothing is happening, what do you do?, Are there different types of fertility treatments? and of course the big questions, how much does each treatment cost?

With Judee having gone through the program and process at RBA- and Gillian’s triplet boys being “natural” multiples that run in her family-Both multiple moms relate their experiences with their multiples in this in depth interview with Dr. Toledo. Listen and Learn.

This podcast episode is sponsored by Northside Hospital. Northside offers comprehensive services for mothers, fathers and their babies including pregnancy planning, lactation consults and baby care and everything in between. Northside Hospital for a lifetime of care - For more information visit www.northside.com

 
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Episode 10: Things said to multiples in public - Tips and Tactics

Hosts: Judee Sunderland and Gillian Norrie

Share their Tips and Tactics they have employed to disguise and handle their multiples in public, or at least draw less attention to them. You know how the public can be…

We both agree that parents of multiples this is and will be one of the hardest things to deal with - drawing extra attention in public places.

“People will ask you about just about anything from your medical history, finances, making some pretty and incredibly rude comments about your family”

In this episode we give helpful hints and share our stories and experiences. Helping you and your family on how to cope with the ever watching public and their off the cuff comments about your cute multiples. People say the darnest things and that is so true! Listen and learn on this funny episode.

Check out a few questions and comments about our multiples we have received over the years

Make sure you share your photos, share your moments of receiving some of those awkward stares and questions from the public eye. We would like to hear your stories - Share links and events on with Matters of Multiples with flickr, Join us on Facebook or follow and talk with us on Twitter@multiplesmoms

 
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Tips on drawing less attention to multiples in public places

Judee Sunderland and Gillian Norrie Share their Tips and Tactics they have employed to disguise their multiples in public, or at least draw less attention to them. You know how the public can be…

Parents of multiples agree that one of the hardest things to deal with is drawing extra attention in public places. “People will ask you about just about anything from your medical history, finances - making some pretty and incredibly rude comments about your family”

These are just some tactics Judee and I have employed to that may help you

  • Avoid eye contact and keep moving. It’s harder to notice extra babies in a fast-moving stroller, especially if it’s a large stroller
  • When they are old enough to go in bigger carriers – like 2 in a stroller or jogger and another in a front body carrier- this breaks up the children/ and you can swiftly move past people before the notice.
  • Consider dressing multiples in different styles; coordinating outfits attract more attention. This doesn’t even work for me- cause I have same sex and my boys have the same hair color….you still encounter questions are stares.
  • Finally, prepare a short but swift answer that allows you to quickly escape an interrogation session. A negative answer to the pesky “Are they triplets?” question stops the conversation in its tracks YES! – and keep moving.

“People get so excited when they see multiples and then seem to lose their heads.” I have had people walk into polls, drop their ice cream, spill their drinks and yes I have on occasion said that I am the Nanny- just to avoid further questions from a crowd - that reminds me- I need to have a T-shirt that says that on it [coming soon the MOM store].

I have + and still are teaching my boys about public questions – regarding them earlier when they were little people would want to touch them – which was a little scary…so we would usually have a perimeter to
intercept people.

Here are just a few questions Judee and I have endured:

  • Are they Triplets?
  • Which one is older?- how many minutes apart
  • Why is one taller?
  • You’ve got your hands full
  • Did you breast feed?
  • How much they weighed at birth?
  • Did you have them “naturally?”
  • How many eggs did you have ?
  • Which one is the good one?
  • How come their names don’t match?
  • How do you tell them apart?
  • Do they do everything together?
  • Was it easy getting pregnant
  • Are you their MOM?- is my favorite + I usually reply I am just the Nanny
  • How much weight did you gain? I bet you were a horse….
  • Does Triplets run in your family?
  • How do you do it? (Do what??? Do I give them back?)
  • They don’t look alike, what happened?
  • Do they have the same Dad?
  • Do they fight?
  • How OLD were you when you had the triplets?
  • Are they all OK?
  • Do they have learning disabilities?
  • The boy – he just does not have a chance….
  • Did you have help when they were little?
  • Are you working? I know your husband has to work 2 jobs….
  • You had fertility, didn’t you?
  • You are brave…not me….
  • Your husband must want to leave the house…
  • WOW, hope you are saving for college NOW…
  • How old will you be, when they go to college (swiftly turn your back and walk away)

Share your photos, Share your moments of receiving some of those awkward stares and questions from the public eye. We would like to hear your stories - Share links and events on with Matters of Multiples with flickr, Join us on Facebook or follow and talk with us on Twitter@multiplesmoms